By Borja Vilaseca
In order to change paradigms and prosper in the new emerging reality, it is essential to go through the three stages that are part of any process of self-knowledge and personal transformation.
The end of the Industrial Age is giving way to a new era with its own rules of the game, very different from the ones we are used to. Hence, in order to obtain new and better results in the labor and economic sphere, it is necessary to experience a "paradigm shift". That is to say, a deep change of mentality, learning to relate to the system in a much more mature, free and responsible manner.
The first step is, without a doubt, the most difficult. And it consists in being honest with ourselves, daring to say aloud that we long for a change and recognizing that it depends entirely on us. Changing the paradigm is an act of profound humility. It implies abandoning the arrogance of believing that we know everything and of recognizing that our way of thinking and understanding life can be erroneous and limited.
Thus, this process of emancipation consists of assuming the responsibility and the protagonism of resolving -for ourselves- our own labor and financial problems. And it is this declaration of intentions that leads us to take control of our lives. Curiously, the greater our fear, the longer it is-in turn-our list of excuses and justifications for not changing or reinventing ourselves. And it costs so much, that many only dare to take this first step after having suffered a saturation of suffering. More than anything because only then do we feel that we have nothing to lose.
FIRST STAGE: KNOWING
Temple of Delphi
The first stage of this trip is called "self-knowledge". This process is very similar to entering a house that has been abandoned for a long time, isolated from the outside world. And is that most of us take 30, 40 and even more than 50 years without visiting, ordering and cleaning our own home . This is the reason why nothing else to put a foot in, we are surrounded by a threatening darkness. That's why our first reaction is to get out of there in a hurry.
The brave who decided to go blindly, little by little we are noticing how our eyes get used to the lack of light. And after taking a few steps, we finally locate the switch we're looking for, also known as "consciousness." And we often get scared when we see clearly the state of our inner home ...
Thus, knowing ourselves would be the process of integral reform of our interior home . And it is not a matter of judging or rejecting anything we see. It is, rather, to understand and accept ourselves as we are. And to get down to work, committing ourselves to fixing the furniture, changing the glass, washing the dishes and, in short, doing whatever it takes to feel truly at ease in our own home .
In other words, self-knowledge consists of making our "dark side" or "shadow" conscious. Hence, the metaphor of "enlightenment" is usually used to refer to the process by means of which we become aware of what are the fears, insecurities, shortcomings, complexes, frustrations, miseries, traumas and wounds that we have been dragging throughout the lifetime. As much as we obviate them and do not want to recognize them, all these limitations accompany us 24 hours a day, distorted our way of seeing the world, as well as the way in which we position ourselves in the face of our labor and economic circumstances.
SECOND STAGE: DEVELOP
"Do not let anyone ever tell you what you're worth. You are the only one capable of knowing your own value "
Self-knowledge not only focuses on our limitations, but also on our strengths. It is at this point that the second stage of this exciting process begins, in which "personal development" is worked on. And in general, is to become the best version of ourselves. Not in vain, each of us has been born with a series of qualities, virtues, abilities and innate abilities. But unless we know how to detect and develop them, they remain hidden in the depths of our being. The challenge is to peel the numerous layers of onion that separate us from the core, where our true essence resides and from where we reconnect with our immense potential.
Among other issues, personal development allows us to know and understand the functioning of our mind, as well as to dominate and manage our thoughts in a more efficient way. In parallel, it also enables us to detect, question and transcend all those beliefs limiting, false or erroneous about the vision we have of ourselves and the place we occupy in society. So much so, that one of the main results of this process is the healing of our self-esteem and the increase of self-confidence.
THIRD STAGE: LEADING
"The whole world departs when it sees a person who knows where it is going"
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Once we know who we are and develop the potential that exists within us, we enter the third stage: the "leadership in values". Through a strategy aimed at change and professional reinvention, this phase leads us to discover our talent and our vocation. Only in this way can we guide our existence to the common good, developing a useful, creative and meaningful professional function that benefits other human beings. It is these revelations that allow us to create wealth and contribute value to society, obtaining income as a result.
The most beautiful part of this trip is that at the precise moment in which we overcome the fears that prevent us from being free, we begin to listen clearly to the messages that our inner voice sends us. This is how we discover the purpose for which we are here. Curiously, all the people who have entered into this type of change process sooner or later come to the same conclusion: that by changing the way we see things, the things we see change. And life, finally, begins to make sense.
This article is an excerpt from the book "What would you do if you were not afraid", published by Borja Vilaseca in April 2012.